





SFO->MSP
Had a great flight! Griffin was squirmy but generally polite. (And who isn’t squirmy when they have to sit in a tiny seat in a noisy tube packed with strangers?)
( I probably could have skipped these posts, but I am addicted to my new phone. Love the wordpress app!)



BART
Monday Accomplishments
Today was a very productive day. A selection of our activities:
- Reorganized all the bookshelves so that they are both orderly and attractive. (Sarah has taught me many things… you don’t have to just put books on bookshelves… you can stack some books horizontally to break things up visually… you can intersperse photos and art objects… it’s rad.)
- Packed ten boxes and stacked them in the shed along with two empty bookcases
- Rearranged the bedroom now that it lacks a bookcase to make it look more open
- Contacted the principal of a charter school in Minneapolis and scheduled a meeting with him on Friday. (He definitely doesn’t have a job for me, but gotta start building the network somewhere.)
- Walked down to lakeshore and bought an iPhone! It’s a very welcome birthday present from my parents (thanks Mom and Dad!) We’ve resisted the “smart phone” phenomenon for years now, not wanting to pay the added monthly expense. But with the chaos of the move coming up, the ability to have internet access in the car while driving around the Twin Cities seemed well worth the expense. Of course I don’t have time to play with my new toy, but I’m sure it will be extremely useful in MN this week.
- Cleaned up the kitchen to make it look like the counters are not usually completely covered with clutter.
- And, of course, we changed diapers and did all the usual parenting stuff… but I must admit that Griffin has been very generous at allowing us to pack and accomplish things while he toddles around the mess.
- Now we’re about to head into Berkeley for a date: Patty Griffin at Zellerbach Hall! Sarah put this on the calendar months ago, but she called it “Special Date Night” and wouldn’t tell me anything more. I just found out what it is. What a great way to end a day!

Moving Madness
We haven’t been posting on here as much recently for two reasons. First, Sarah has been working full time, so she doesn’t have nap-times to post. Second, we are up to our ears in preparations for our summer move to Minnesota. When we actually think about the entire list of things that have to happen we tend to freak out. One step at a time has become our mantra… stop, breathe, just one step. 🙂
Some things we’ve been up to recently:
- Got the house repainted last fall. Glad we thought to do that early.
- Painters are coming tomorrow to touch up some things and do some odd projects we hadn’t predicted in the fall.
- Gardening team is trying to make it look like we’ve been spending our weekends weeding for the past five years. (Good luck…)
- Packing… while we’re not quite up to Dave and Nancy’s level (they have packed two gigantic crates!), we are very proud of the growing stacks of boxes in the shed filled with clothes and books and kitchen supplies that we won’t be using again until we’re in the Twin Cities.
- Found a new tax accountant because we found out that our previous guy, who I’ve been using for six years, is in jail for mail fraud. Yep. He was in the news.
- I have completed my résumé with lots of valuable help from Jeff (who used to be a career counselor). Also two different cover letter templates that should be flexible enough to work for many potential job openings. And this weekend I typed up electronic applications for both Minneapolis and Saint Paul school districts. (Not that they have any job openings at the moment, but everything is uploaded and ready for review in case anything opens up.)
- I’ve contacted a principal in Saint Paul who I will meet with on Thursday to discuss possible openings at his school and other schools.
- Did I mention that we’re going to Minnesota on Wednesday through Sunday? (It’s our spring break… and we get to spend Griffin’s birthday with Grandma Pam and Grandpa Jeff and Aunt Alli!)
- We are in touch with a real estate agent in Saint Paul who we’re meeting on Thursday and Friday. She’s compiling lists of houses and neighborhoods that we might be interested in.
- We’ve changed all the doorknobs and hinges in our apartment so that it doesn’t look so 90s (at the advice of our local real estate agent.)
- Been mowing the lawn every week at the command of the aforementioned gardening team. (Usually I try to get to it a few times a year.)
- We’ve been enjoying Griffin’s increasing abilities to walk across vast amounts of space. And the parallel ability to hurt himself more rapidly than ever. (He’s got a cool pirate-like scrape from his forehead to his upper lip thanks to an aggressive cardboard box.)
- Investigating what to do about our leaking water heater.
- Oh, lest I forget, I have a master’s thesis to write. Met with my advisor Tuesday morning. Took Wednesday off and was very productive. Aiming for a rough draft in my advisor’s hands by April 28.
So, in short, we’re moving to Minnesota. Somehow between now and then we will sell this house, buy a new house, finish my thesis, get a job, finish packing, hire movers, and drive across country to the great state of Minnesota.
One. Step. At. A. Time.
Griffin Walks!
Griffin has been experimenting a lot with walking lately: letting go of the coffee table, taking one step and then falling to his knees in a crawl, cruising all around a chair, or holding on to a finger to barrel across the room. But TODAY he full-on walked for the first time!
I had just gotten home from work, my arms full of baby and bags. I put Griffin down on his feet next to an ottoman and threw my bags to the floor. Just as I was about to drop to the floor and join him, he turned around and walked seven or eight steps to a pile of boxes that have been waiting to be put in the storage shed. He did it all by himself!
I tried to get him to repeat his wondrous new abilities once Andrew got home from school, but the G-man still prefers crawling. It will only be a matter of time before he’s confident enough to try it again!
Spring Morning
Confrontation
I reached a milestone today as a parent: I was accused by another parent of neglecting in my duties as a mom to care for my child. The accusing mom did not actually say, “You’re a bad mom,†but she may as well have just come out and said it that way.
I returned to work three weeks ago as a full-time teacher, covering my friend Bess’ kindergarten class while she’s out on maternity leave. It has been a hard adjustment for everyone in the family, and it’s been further complicated by the fact that Griffin has been fighting illness since he started going to day care. I was expecting him to get sick, and he predictably did almost immediately. What I wasn’t expecting is for it to go on and on the way it has. He’s had a cold in one form or another for nearly three weeks, had stomach flu complete with projectile vomiting and diarrhea up the back and down the legs, and now is on to wheezing like an asthmatic. Andrew and I have both stayed home from work with him for a couple of days when he was really sick, and we have been to the doctor three times in the past three weeks. I was beginning to feel like a worry-wart mom, but on the last visit this past Wednesday, his pediatrician assured me that it’s just par for the course and that he’ll get better eventually. We’re currently treating his wheezing with two inhaled medicines, and he’s pretty much back to his old self, laughing, playing, eating, and sleeping normally.
This morning when I went to drop Griffin off at day care, another mom (who made it clear she’s a nurse) handed me a printout on RSV (the illness his pediatrician has already told me is the likely culprit of his symptoms) and said she was “very upset†that Griffin had been at day care yesterday. She went on to tell me that RSV is a “highly contagious†disease and it’s “completely inappropriate†for him to be at day care. I told her that his doctor had said nothing about Griffin not attending day care, at which point she said, “Sometimes you have to ask specific questions.â€Â She went on to say that “many children who get it are on respirators in the hospital†and she didn’t want her child to get it, so if Griffin was going to be at day care, she was going to take a sick day and pull her daughter out, although “it may be too late.â€
I think it was about this point that I started to cry. I babbled something about “being new at this mom thing†and how “of course I would never bring Griffin to day care if I thought he was going to get other kids seriously ill†and she talked back at me about “it’s highly contagious and we’ll probably ALL get it now.â€Â By this time, I was late to work and was supposed to be with my students in 15 minutes. I called our extremely compassionate secretary who assured me she’d handle it. I gathered my things and left with Griffin on my hip and tears streaming down my face.
I’m home now and am calmer. Griffin and I enjoyed playing together this morning, and now he’s down for a nice long nap. His doctor emailed me back right away saying there’s absolutely no reason Griffin can’t go to day care, that he stopped being contagious 24 hours after his fever broke, and that basically he’s fine. I am happy I am vindicated, and happy to be home enjoying some unexpected hours with my little guy.
I’ve thought a lot about what I’m going to say when I run into this mom again. She was wrong, plain and simple, on so many levels including medically. I could point all these things out to her and tell her just how wrong she was, but I think I’ll just say this to her: If I’ve learned anything about parenting so far, it’s that we all do the best that we can for our kids. Instead of keeping this in mind, you made me feel ignorant, incompetent, and stupid when you could have addressed your worries by showing compassion, understanding, and asking questions instead of accusing. I hope you keep this in mind the next time you are doing the best you can for your daughter.
Becoming Valet Victorian…
Just saw this gem in a student notebook where she was listing her goals for the spring semester:
“Becoming valet victorian.”
10 Month Stats
Griffin will be 10 months old on Monday! Whew. We went to his pediatrician on Friday and have his latest stats. All in all, Dr. Junge is happy with his growth and progress and thinks Griffin is an all-around swell guy. Also of note is Griffin’s latest tooth count, which stands at an impressive 13.
Weight: 20lbs (31%)
Height: 2′ 3.5″ (13%)
Head Circumference: 18.27″ (72%)
By the way, Bert and Ernie: No fears. Griffin and his mommy and daddy have been vaccinated for H1N1.

